My body parts don’t match! Fat on top, Skinny on the bottom!

I remember the time, quite a while ago, I tried on a suit at Macy’s. The skirt was way too tight and the jacket fit fine. I was confused. I bought plenty of suits by this particular clothing maker and jacket and skirt always fit my top and bottom just right.

I could buy clothes right off the rack without needing to have any alterations. My height and weight were once exactly the dimensions used by many major women's clothing makers.

I could buy clothes right off the rack without needing to have any alterations. My height and weight were once exactly the dimensions used by many major women’s clothing makers.

I took a closer look at the garments and then I discovered that the jacket was a size 10 and the skirt was a size 6! Now I understood. Somebody bought the 10 skirt and the 6 jacket. Pear-shaped women are not unfamiliar with the challenge of buying clothes that fit them on the top …. and on the bottom.

As a Weight Watchers leader I’ve had many pear-shaped woman complain that their body parts “don’t fit.” They are dissatisfied with their bodies because they have a common female shape. They tend to gain their weight below the waist – in hips and thighs.

She jokes she's shaped like this squash but when she tries to buy clothes, the laughing is over.

She jokes she’s shaped like this squash but when she tries to buy clothes, the laughing is over.

It amazes me that women blame their bodies for not being the “right shape.”

They aren’t even a little bit upset that women’s clothing makers don’t make clothes to fit normal female bodies; instead they make clothes to fit an ideal female body shape that only represents a small fraction of female body types.

In an effort to create the right body to fit the clothes women diet when they are not overweight. They spend money on programs that promise to “sculpt and shape their bodies into the body they have always dreamed to have.” Eventually they discover it’s money spent in vain and still some women blame their bodies for not complying!

Some have surgery to turn their body into the desired symmetrical female form. Some purchase shapewear. A little support from undergarments isn’t a bad thing, but some shapewear is damaging to internal organs. Waist training at best is only and illusion and at worst can damage organs and cause deformities.

The Kim Kardashians of the  world, women are using contraptions like waist trainers to try to get the tiny waist. Some are even getting butt implants to get the current, desirable wasp=shape.

The Kim Kardashians of the world, women are using contraptions like waist trainers to try to get the tiny waist. Some are even getting butt implants to get the current, desirable wasp=shape.

When I lost weight and reached my goal in 1991, I fit into size 8/10 sized clothing like it was made for me. 

There actually was once a time size 10 clothes really were made for me. My first job after graduating from high school was a pattern makers model for John Meyer of Norwich, Emily M, and Jones New York. The designers created a sample that was sent to the factory in Norwich, CT where the pattern makers would make the patterns that would be used to mass produce the garment. My job was to try on a new sample made using the pattern to see how the garment would fit and adjustments would be made accordingly. I hated the job so I went on my famous doughnuts and ice cream diet and dropped 3 dress sizes in 3 months. I was let go!

I digress; back to the topic…

Now that I’m 61-years-old things have changed. Hormone levels have dropped, muscle mass has been lost, and my symmetry is gone. I now fight to avoid the classic “old lady shape of an apple walking on toothpicks.” In other words a big body on skinny legs.

Stock photo! Not me, but it illustrates what starts to happen when if I should get sloppy with my eating and exercising.

Stock photo! Not me, but it illustrates what starts to happen when if I should get sloppy with my eating and exercising.

Managing my weight helps a lot both by avoiding extra fat being stored around my middle as well as staying fit and toned. I do what I can and refuse to worry about what I can’t do.

Jackie Conn

About Jackie Conn

Jackie Conn is married and has four grown daughters and four grandchildren. She is a Weight Watchers success story. She's a weight loss expert with 25 years of experience guiding women and men to their weight-related goals. Her articles on weight management have been published in health, family and women's magazines. She has been a regular guest on Channel 5 WABI news, FOX network morning program Good Day Maine and 207 on WCSH.