Sometimes it hurts to change.
Sometimes it hurts to learn.
Nothing meaningful happens without hurting.
Hurting is another word for learning. If we completely live our lives seeking to avoid pain and never experiencing hurt, we will never learn and we will never feel the joy of accomplishment.
Hurting isn’t the same as failure.
Failure is the refusal to learn. It’s accepting to stay where you are, no matter how much you don’t like where you are. Failure is being afraid to try new things in case in might involve a little (or a lot) of hurting.
Hurting is a natural result of trying something new and discovering it’s not as easy as you thought. You need to keep working at learning how to do that new thing right – or better. With practice comes skill and with skill comes a lessened degree of hurt. Eventually skill leads to no hurt, just pleasure.
I will never tell you that weight loss is easy. I’ll tell you that at times it will hurt. I will also tell you that every time you hurt you’re learning something important that can help you eventually get what you want. The pain is temporary, but the positive effects can be long lasting and far outweigh the momentary pain you endured while you were learning.
Hurt during weight loss can be both physical and mental.
If you turn to food to manage emotions, it might hurt to have to feel the emotions you were stuffing inside of you with food. You might find, though, that the pain isn’t as bad as you thought it would be. You may find it goes away quickly and it’s not replaced with another kind of pain, such as uncomfortably full or angry disappointment with yourself, for overeating.
If you’re used to constantly eating throughout the day, it’s going to hurt, or at least be very uncomfortable, to want food and not eat in response.
There may be pain caused by becoming physically active. Unused and underused muscles tend to hurt when you first start to increase their use. As they become fit and strong the pain goes away. You should listen to muscular and skeletal pain and go slowly, because even though you can expect some hurt, when it hurts too much you shouldn’t ignore the warning.
Expect some hurt and prepare to work through it. It helps to have support from people who were where you are, as well as people who are where you are right now. Sharing the pain makes it hurt less.
As much as you may resist becoming part of a group that supports each other to reach common goals, you may find that what you thought you didn’t want is exactly what you need!