Be Kind to Yourself to Lose More Weight!”

Hey Fatso! You’ll never lose weight.*

My God, you’re weak. You can never say no, can you?
You’ll go to that party and make a pig of yourself. If you’re serious about losing weight don’t go.
You better not have any of those cookies because you won’t be able to stop. Thought so, you are going to eat them because you’re addicted.
It’s okay, just this once. Go ahead and eat that and just don’t eat anything tomorrow.
You might as well finish that up. Then it won’t be able to tempt you anymore!
Everything is wrong with your life! Why do you even care about losing weight anymore?

I wouldn’t be surprised if you read them while thinking, “How mean! Who would talk to somebody like that?” Some people are that mean, but typically the meanest-mouthed person you’ll ever know might be YOU! If any of these statements sound familiar chances are it’s because it’s how you talk to yourself.

Usually the only person who can say such things and get away with it, is yourself.

Most of us are our sharpest critic. We could be guilty of treating ourself much nastier than we would ever treat somebody – anybody – else.

Why are we so hard on ourself?

Typically it’s a way to try to “kick our own butt” in a massively misguided way to bring about self improvement. I tried it. It doesn’t help!

It backfires!

Harsh criticism and negative self-talk generally perpetuates the negative behavior.

Self-coaching can influence positive behavioral changes.

You can do this!
You’re strong; you can make choices that support your goal!
Go to the party and have a great time! Focus on the fun, eat a little of the special party foods and feel good about having a treat and your flexible restraint skills!
Of course you can eat one cookie if that’s what you want to do! You’re a master of flexible restraint!
You can eat the rest later. Put it away and out of sight.
You can have the life you want!

Break the negative self-talk habit. Make a conscious effort to give yourself positive messages often. Instead of focusing on the weight-related challenges you face, focus on the steps you will take to overcome the challenge.

* It’s supremely satisfying to do something we are told by other people we can’t do, but when we tell ourself we can’t do something, we’re correct. We can’t.

Jackie Conn

About Jackie Conn

Jackie Conn is the general manager of Weight Watchers of Maine. She is married and has four grown daughters and four grandchildren. Her experience with her own weight management journey and raising girls has given her insight into the struggles families face with weight, healthy body image, food and physical activity. She has been a regular guest on Channel 5 WABI news for more than ten years and appears monthly as a guest on FOX network morning program Good Day Maine.